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Belated post about the time I changed my mind
Not long after Norah was born I decided the twins should be in big kid beds instead of cribs. I don’t really know why this suddenly became important to me, maybe subconsciously it was my way of trying to deal with having three under three. If two of them were in big kid beds then it would feel like I only had one baby. Or something.
But really the major motivator was the day I was rearranging the twins’ room (I’m a furniture rearranger. That’s not a real word but I am one) and moved Soren’s crib to find a support bar underneath was completely cracked in half. A broken bed plus visions of a future where I wasn’t hoisting two kids up over the side of a crib while recovering from giving birth (having a new baby sped up the need to give the twins independence to do more things themselves, a post in itself) got me browsing beds on the Ikea website that day.
After asking for input from friends and family and discussing the many options with J over the next week we decided a) we wouldn’t bother to buy new toddler beds, b) it was too soon for bunk beds, but c) we were pretty sure we’d need them eventually so if we bought twin sized beds they needed to be able to stack into bunks. The best deal for us seemed to be Ikea bunk beds that we would set up as twin beds for now. So off to Ikea went J who returned with about 15 boxes. Long story short on this part: he tried to set them up before bedtime only to discover one bed box contained wrong parts so we raced to take it all down and push their cribs back into their room for another night.
This is where the process began to get annoying and more than a little tiring.
Take two on bed building. Another trip to Ikea to retrieve the correct pieces and by nap time the next day the beds were in place. I immediately saw to my dismay they were WAY bigger than I envisioned. They took up the whole room in an already small and full room in a small and full apartment. There was only enough room between the beds to walk and their table and chairs were stuck sitting in the hallway! Not only this but we didn’t yet have a plan to prevent them from falling out of the bed AND we realized since we had to buy new mattresses none of their old bedding would fit. Annoyance increasing.
The twins handled the huge change well, Marlow only fell out once and after we rigged rolled up blankets along the edge under the sheet they stayed put. But I totally regretted my choice from the minute I saw the first bed completed and disliked it more and more every time I had to be in their room. We could hardly move in there, the kids didn’t play in there all day except for the time they spent on the beds themselves which was actually way less than I expected. They routinely spend half their day in their room, “cooking”, reading, drawing, etc. so losing this play space meant less independent play. Instead of feeling excited for the big change I felt kind of panicky and sad (hormones let’s be honest here) and within a couple days I told J I couldn’t live with it.
Bless my poor husband. He took apart two cribs, loaded and unloaded, put together, took apart, put together and then took apart two beds FROM IKEA then took the whole thing back and reassembled and repaired the original cribs. Believe me, the whole time, while taking care of a newborn and trying to keep two toddlers out of his way, I was kicking myself for not going with my original gut feeling that I wanted the kids in toddlers beds. Which our cribs actually convert into, and that’s exactly what we did in the end. J took one side off, built a support for the broken side and, thanks to a very helpful Canadian Tire employee who went down into the warehouse to find a foam pool noodle in January, I created a $3 barrier I saw on Pinterest to keep them safely in bed. They have never fallen out and they both loved how their own beds transformed into something new. They were such troopers through it all.
So now the twins are in toddler beds, their table and chairs are back in their room and there is enough space between their beds for their dresser so one whole side of the room can be a play area. Multitasking rooms in an apartment for five people isn’t optional. And we won’t be venturing back into twin beds until they are old enough for bunks. Thanks for letting me change my mind, J, I know it wasn’t the first time and you know it won’t be the last. LOVE YA.
Here’s some pictures I took shortly after things were back to normal. You can see since then I’ve added the dress up corner and their quilts hang at the head of their bed now to keep it more visually open.
This is Soren’s bed. The metal bucket is their laundry bin and the felt letters on the drawers help them know which drawer is theirs. I love all the ways this small thing has increased their independence and simplified communication.
This is Marlow’s bed (she has always slept closer to the door because she used to nap shorter and wake up earlier) and at the foot is her doll bed. You can see the pool noodle under the sheet. I cut one in half which created just enough of a barrier while still leaving a flat space at the end to climb in and out.
This area of their room provides the most fun an apartment kid can hope for. They cook, serve food, colour, read and pretend to grocery shop and generally try to copy everything they see us do.
Their dresser fits between the beds but I still hope to someday sell it and get something with a smaller profile but more drawers. The Etsy art is on the wall now but we can’t put anything else on the dresser because they can reach it. They empty the drawers all the time.
These shelves are great because they are high enough to hold sentimental or breakable items but they tend to be neglected. I can see they need some freshening up. But look at my little pants-less sweetie boy aka future chef.
Cooking up soaps
I don’t really know why I picked this particular DIY during this season of limited time and energy to try new things but sometime last week the idea of making my own soaps just got stuck in my head and I just had to do it. I’ve been using homemade household cleaners for years (basic vinegar/water/essential oil/baking soda/soap combinations) I wanted to see if it would have a positive affect on Norah’s sensitive skin (I was already washing her clothes in the soap I use on the cloth diapers but I suspect her cheeks are rashy from touching the rest of us who were just using a bargain box of Sunlight I got on sale) but I’m also hoping it will save us some pennies. Well not literally pennies because we don’t have those in Canada anymore. HA.
So last week I started checking out recipes for laundry detergent I had pinned in the past, hoping I’d get a chance to try them. I picked a recipe (forgive the website, I used her recipe because it was for a smaller amount than others and she had priced it out), gathered the ingredients and whipped up a two gallon batch of simple liquid detergent. It has a gentle smell from the Ivory soap and I thought about adding some essential oil but opted to stick with the basic ingredients just in case it upset Norah’s sweet baby skin.
So far the soap is working well and if I can purchase the ingredients at the cheapest possible locations one website estimates I might only pay about 1/10th of a cent per load. Not that I’ll need to buy anything to make more for a very long time – I only used half a cup of each powder and one bar of Ivory and I’ve still got big boxes of it all.
I don’t know why I didn’t take a picture of the grated soap bar, it was probably the coolest part.
The two gallon batch made, well two gallons, duh. And that was more than even my biggest stock pot could handle so next time I’ll still make the full batch (don’t want to bother with half bars of soap and making it twice as often) but I’ll know to borrow a second stock pot and have gallon milk jugs ready to fill.
Excited from my detergent making I was just waiting for something else to run low. So of course I was pretty pumped yesterday when J asked me if we had any more dish soap. No we don’t, but give me five minutes, dear, and I can change that.
I made a super basic recipe for dish soap (and check out that label. You can download it but you have to join some document uploading site so I’m thinking of designing my own someday) which I’ll build on for next time to see if I can improve the grease-cutting ability. I used a lavender castile soap (and coincidently put it in an empty lavender dish soap bottle of which I was able to remove the label so I have a nice white bottle now) because they didn’t have plain at the store but I’ve ordered more supplies from Well.ca so in the future I can customize the scent. I can also use some of the same ingredients to make bubble bath, hand soap, shampoo, etc. This soap making stuff is addictive.
And I’m pretty darn excited to save money on all these products and use it in much more useful and important places.
Do you use homemade cleaning products or soaps? What’s your favourite recipe? Ever experienced a homemade soap disaster?
On my bedside table
Annoyingly this week’s Bedside Table is without the awesome tweets I found because they aren’t showing up properly AGAIN. No idea why, maybe something to do with my new theme and I’ll have to get that sorted out at some point. If anyone has ideas for solving the problem let me know.
+ on not being “here” forever
by Vanessa on Strickly Speaking
and i know we’ll be into a new phase of life soon enough and that this time won’t be our lives for forever. but if you’re feeling this way, please know that you’re not alone either. the trenches of life {whether you are married and have kids or are single or whatever your situation} can feel really deep and cold and sludgy with mud sometimes.
+ I am a terrible thriftier. But I want to be better. Thrifting may be one of my girl Emily’s special powers and in this post she shares her tips for thrifting successfully.
+ I got such creative Christmas gifts from family this year! My sister-in-law gave me a subscription to Plan to Eat, a website for meal planning that organizes your recipes, your meal plans and even your shopping list. I am an organizing nerd in heaven. (Use the ad in my sidebar to sign up and it’s good for me too!)
+ If I were actually cooking these days I’d want to make all of these soups from The Pioneer Woman. Vancouver rainy winters will put the soup craving into anyone.
+ It’s Enough
by SmallNotebook
There’s a quiet little question that sneaks in about this time every Christmas. When you think you’re almost ready with holiday preparations, a nagging little question pops in your head: Will it be enough?
+ Now that we know our third is a girl I can dream of dressing her up in all the adorable stuff her big sister wore. I’m also getting great ideas from this post full of tips for dressing a stylish baby girl.
+ We are doing even more laundry here these days. It’s time to try and save money on all that soap while using something gentle enough for babies. This means making our own, maybe this one?
Source: budget101.com via Sarah on Pinterest
Sharing our motivation with a wider circle
I’ve been keeping a little secret.
I’ve known for about a week or so but I wasn’t totally sure how it would pan out so I didn’t say anything but… our little Christmas challenge got a shout out from CBC.ca today! As part of a story they did on 5 shopping challenges to consider this holiday season, they called and interviewed me about my efforts to spend intentionally. They were very professional and pleasant and it was a great experience to work with their online reporter. As it always is with these kinds of things, I felt like I had so much to say and I read the final product and think oh I could have this or that better, or I wish she would have included this thing I talked about or I hope people understand what I meant by that.
But it is what it is and I am just thankful they mentioned the site that donates to Amelia and Varun by name and that they did include a pretty good explanation of my personal motivation for spending my money in this way.
I was asked by the reporter what others I knew were doing to spend more intentionally this Christmas which is what led me to ask you guys for your responses and write about the ripple affect. I wish all your inspiring ideas could have made it in to the story, along with pictures I took of the gifts, but hey, one quick iPhone photo on a national news website is a pretty big deal for a total non-photographer like me!
So thanks again for inspiring me and for keeping the conversation going about how we can do more, love more, reach more with our resources. If anything at all comes out of being included in this article I hope that it is more people checking out Once Was Lost because that was really the point in talking about it in the first place.
A long time ago I wanted to do something to help solve the orphan issue in this world. My heart was broken and overwhelmed and I didn’t know how I could ever do anything close to enough. And then a surprise third baby and I was pretty discouraged that I wouldn’t even be able to do that one thing that I did know to do: adopt. But I’m learning that’s not all there is and not being able to do that one thing is not even close to an excuse for doing nothing. Just start with what we have, where we are and do one thing. Then when that one thing opens up another, maybe bigger thing, step forward and do that. I’m definitely discovering for myself that showing love actually grows love in me so that I don’t think so much about me and what I’m doing and much more about the real people behind the need. And I definitely don’t want to stop.
Christmas gift shopping with a purpose: How it turned out
Well, I did it. If you follow me on Twitter or Facebook you know that I officially purchased the last remaining gift on my shopping list on November 30, making this the first year I have ever been done all my shopping before December.
Because I did quite a bit of online shopping I now get to enjoy that daily excitement waiting for the mail man and which of the many packages he’ll bring me. This also means shopping early is only half the battle: with family far away and online purchases on their way I need to stay on top of wrapping and mailing out gifts or all my early planning will be wasted.
So far I’ve wrapped about half of the gifts that have arrived but I need to sit down and look at which gifts need to be mailed to which homes. This way, I can try to get everything that goes in one shipment wrapped at the same time and into the mail even if I’m waiting on gifts that will go elsewhere.
Now as far as reporting back how I was able to fulfill my Christmas challenge, obviously it’s still before Christmas so I can’t reveal exactly what I bought… but I can give a breakdown of how I did in my attempt to shop with more purpose.
Out of the 20 gifts I purchased (there were more people on the original list but I ended up giving some couple gifts and J and and I are pooling our money to buy ourselves one thing we want for the house so it only ends up being 20 actual purchases) I shopped in the following ways…
- 4 Gifts purchased that donated 50% of the proceeds to my friends’ Varun and Amelia’s India adoption
- 1 Gift that benefitted another adoption through her Etsy shop
- 3 Gifts purchased on Amazon.com that benefitted Love Without Boundaries by using their affiliate link on their website
- 1 Gift purchased from an Etsy shop, supporting small business and the handmade movement
- 4 Gifts purchased from local businesses (non-chain and considered part of the fabric of Gastown) that benefits our community
- 7 gifts purchased from regular stores (can I get credit for putting money into the economy? No, that’s not the point? Okay.)
I was able to stick to my goal for 13 out of 20 gifts and for a first try I’ll take that. I would have loved to buy every single gift from a worthy cause or hardworking small business person but there were a few practical factors that I felt made that a bigger challenge than I had anticipated.
- Our budget was small so the selection of gifts in our price range was significantly less than if we had been able to spend more.
- We live in Canada where we pay more for shipping and many sellers won’t even ship to us at all.
- I needed to turn around and re-ship many items (often the billing address and shipping address cannot be different or I could get free shipping if I bundled purchases but those items ultimately need to go different places) so this ruled out any shops with high shipping costs.
- Much of what is available that benefits specific causes (like adoption) is geared towards people who are already fervent and vocal supporters. Gifts like message t-shirts, Africa necklaces and “I heart adoption” baby clothing just weren’t right for the people in my life. I wanted the funds to go to adoption but still be able to give gifts the receiver would appreciate.
- There’s not a lot out there for men. Lots of jewelry, hair clips, home decor… the affordable, handmade world is not as male-friendly as the Etsy homepage leads one to believe.
- I was determine to give gifts and not just donate all the money. This was just my goal, not a right or wrong, but it did rule out many organizations where one could donate, buy a goat or build a well. And I love those groups and think donating to them is a fantastic idea. But most of them don’t offer something for purchase (unless it fits in the above category of “covered in their logo”)
- The quality of what was available was not always great. Bless the amazing people who are selling bead bracelets to fund their friends adoption and the grandmas who are crocheting oven mitts for their future grandkids. If I saw you face to face at a craft fair I’d probably buy that stuff all day long, but I can’t ask my family to be excited to receive someones handicrafts.
I haven’t had time to sit down and think about what I might do differently next year to increase the impact, or change the focus, of my goals but I’d like to take some time to reflect on that after the holidays. I am excited about the possibilities, especially as our children grow and begin to understand.
I did promise I would offer some more websites and organizations where you can purchase gifts that give back. So here’s a collection of other things I’ve come across in my searching – benefitting all different causes with gifts for (maybe) all the people in your life.
Don’t forget to check out my original list as well.
Gifts That Give Twice: More Ideas
- Charity:Water (Purchase gift cards, t-shirts, water bottles, donate in someone’s name or start your own Christmas campaign!)
- Ten Thousand Villages (lots of options here, from toys to food to home decor)
- Use the Amazon.com link from LWB (or purchase from a shop that donates to them)
- Get your Christmas card designed by an Etsy seller who is fundraising for adoption (like this one)
- Buy meals for Union Gospel Mission
- Find projects that support low-income residents of your community in their efforts to work for their own living, like Vancouver’s Hope in Shadows calendar
- UNICEF Canada (I like to give Canadian resources because they can be harder to find and there are less Canadian-based bloggers but there’s pretty much always a US equivalent found easily)
- Food for the Hungry
- Shop Oxfam Unwrapped (the give-a-goat people)
- Bumbini cloth diapers is selling necklaces and bags handmade by women in Uganda
I want to hear more ideas. If you know someone fundraising for their adoption or another worthy cause share it with us in the comments.
A generous bunch
I was going to wait until I was done all my Christmas shopping (which I said I would be by the end of November, yikes) but I was asked recently if I knew of anyone who had joined me in the Christmas Challenge. I didn’t actually know all the ways you guys were shopping purposefully and after hearing back I just had to give a shout out to YOU.
Did you know that just from those of you who replied and let me know how you’re trying to give gifts with a purpose…
+ Three of you said you were trying to buy locally to support your community or buying handmade to support small businesses and the handmade movement.
+ Two of you said you are trying to give gifts that provide an experience or a relational connection rather than foster materialism.
+ Three of you plan to or have already purchased items from my list of suggested sources including supporting my friends Varun and Amelia by shopping through Once Was Lost, supporting another adoption fund through an Etsy shop and giving to the incredible work of Love Without Boundaries.
+ Four of you shared a specific plan your family has for giving back, purchasing products that benefit others directly, cutting back or teaching your children what it means to give sacrificially.
+ ALL of you stopped to think about how you spend your money and how it lines up with your beliefs, philosophies or desires. You are doing something, something real and tangible and it’s not just lip service – you’re living out what you say you believe life is about and that’s incredibly inspiring. Imagine if each one of us could influence one or two people in our family or circle of influence to ask themselves the same question. How many kids in need would get shoes this Christmas and look forward to being able to attend school as a result. How many loving families with costs standing in the way would see that obstacle between them and a child without a family disappear. How many tiny babies in China would be placed in the arms of a foster mom instead of laying alone in an orphanage crib for one more night.
It feels small. You bought jewelry, you purchased one less gift for your children, you decided to buy something different for someone because it’s where you wanted your money to go. It’s not small at all. It’s sacrificial and loving. And right now I feel like the Grinch at the part of the movie where his heart bursts out of the magnifying glass. Or something.
So don’t stop. You are encouraging me and you are encouraging everyone who reads about this or owns a shop or an organization that you blessed with your resources. I’ve got more ideas if anyone is still looking for gifts (I know I need a couple more for those so-hard-to-buy-for men in my life) but I’ll save that for another day.
Today I just want to say thanks for taking the challenge seriously and inspiring me to live what I believe – that my possessions are not my own and my circle of “loved ones” should include people I will never meet – in more areas of my own life.
So many of you were doing much more before I ever started my own small efforts, I aspire to give as sacrificially and live as authentically as you.
Our second freezer cooking day: The haul
I was putting off this post until I could get some good pictures of my stocked freezer but our printer is out of colour ink so I don’t have my pretty happy Martha Stewart labels yet and I haven’t gotten time to do a real organizing of the frozen foods so I honestly don’t know when those pictures are going to happen. The food is in there, and it’s crazy full, but now that the bags are frozen firm and the foil containers are sturdier I can move stuff around so it’s in a logical setup with visible labels. When that happens (next week maybe?) I’ll post a few pictures of it just so you can stand back and smile with me at the thought of all those ready meals waiting to fill bellies.
But besides the visuals that we all enjoy, the important thing is really the meals we made. It took us from about 2pm until our kids were ready for bed around 8pm (with a break here or there to run some food down to my place to free up fridge space in hers) and there were definitely moments when we felt like we had taken on a lot, but in the end I’m really happy with the variety an quantity we were able to make. We don’t have big kitchens or even very many pots, pans and mixing bowls between us (gotta keep things tight when you’ve got four in an apartment) so we had to stay on top of washing up and doing things in the best order we could.
So here’s a recap of the recipes we made, how much we made of each, how we froze them and any tips we learned. I am sure you could actually end up with a higher overall quantity of meals if you were willing to do more batches of less recipes, which we did last time, but we really wanted to try for a more varied meal plan and see how our families enjoyed that.
And yes, that’s my laptop on top of a frying pan.
Asian salmon: Two meals per family for a total of four, frozen in freezer ziplock bags. We bought frozen salmon because the fresh salmon would have had to be skinned and portioned (BUT don’t forget normally when doing freezer meals you have to buy fresh meat because you can refreeze) so we just threw the salmon in with the marinade and we’ll see if the time it marinates when thawing is enough to give it good flavour.
Baked penne with sausage and ricotta: Two meals per family for a total of four, frozen in square 8×8 foil pans. Adrianne used rice pasta because she eats gluten-free and made two with penne and two with linguine just because it’s what we had.
Turkey, sweet potato and goat cheese cannelloni (from Clean Eating Magazine): Two meals per family for a total of four, two frozen in 8×8 foil containers and two in our own 9×9 glass containers with lids. This one looked awesome even though we totally skipped making it cannelloni and essentially assembled as lasagna. Can’t wait to try that sweet potato filling.
Mini meatloaves: Six per family which is about one meal for a total of two meals, half frozen in a muffin tin then transferred to a freezer ziplock when firm. Adrianne just whipped up her own recipe because we had extra ground beef and they are very popular with the kids. They have a delicious sauce on top, cheese inside and are a cinch to make in a muffin tin.
Pumpkin chocolate chip muffins: About a dozen per family (I’m too lazy to dig through my freezer for an exact count), frozen in freezer ziplock bags. Adrianne also bagged up the leftover canned pumpkin and froze that for later use. Very smart.
Breakfast cookies: About four dozen for our family and two dozen for Adrianne’s, frozen in freezer ziplock bags. I made my half before the big cook day because I had the ingredients and the twins really wanted to bake. After seeing how many really big cookies two batches made (they take up like half my freezer) Adrianne opted to only have me make her one batch on cook day. We also did some substituting in hers (spelt flour, honey instead of sugar, no raisins, less chocolate) and they still tasted great. In fact, they were easier to form into cookies so next time I’ll modify too. If we EVER finish the ones I made.
Buttermilk pancakes: About 18 just for our family, frozen in a freezer ziplock bag with parchment paper between layers so they can be pulled out as needed. John’s other sister, Janna, helped us on our cook day even though all she took home with her was some breakfast cookies and a few muffins (what a saint) and she handled making the pancakes for me otherwise by that time in the day I wouldn’t have done it. She was able to work on a separate griddle so it didn’t take up any oven or stove space either. These will be nice to have for a quick breakfast since our kids eat so many in one sitting.
Basic meat lasagna: Two full-size lasagnas just for our family, one frozen in a 9×13 foil pan and the other refrigerated to be used immediately (there just wasn’t room in the freezer for two pans that size). Adrianne opted not to make any (she isn’t stocking up for a new baby so she graciously gave more of her time to helping me get more out of this day) and next time I would go off-recipe and assemble them in 8×8 pans that were deeper so they were thicker lasagnas that took up less space. 9×13 foil pans just don’t stack well either unless you have a way to put a firm top on them (I only had foil).
Chicken alfredo rollups: Two meals for just our family, frozen in two 8×8 foil pans. Another one I just made for our family, I can’t wait to try these. The recipe makes 9 rolls (she says it’s a meal for three with three rolls per person which is insane – the rolls are really big!) but I opted to put four in each pan so it created two meals on one roll per person. The alfredo sauce is from scratch but I bet using a jarred one would cut this recipe time in half.
Peanut chicken: Two meals for just our family, frozen in two freezer ziplock bags. Our family loves this one so I made two generous sized batches that will probably give us some leftovers at each meal. I also increased the sauce since we love lots of it on our rice.
Quiche filling: Two quiches for just our family, frozen in two small freezer ziplock bags. I actually made this before our big cook day because I knew Adrianne wasn’t doing it and it is just so easy. If you lay them flat until they are hard you can stack them upright and when you want to make a quiche, pick up a frozen crust (or make one), thaw the filling and bake. We eat eggs almost everyday so a quiche works as breakfast, lunch or even dinner in our house. Even though it seems like a simple thing, having it pre-made means you don’t have to have cheese on hand or make a mess cooking bacon to have your quiche.
Honey & spice glazed pork chops: Two meals per family for a total of four, frozen in freezer ziplock bags. We didn’t have exactly four chops per meal (the meat was sold by weight) but because we have small children I was able to cut the largest ones and still create four full meals. The glaze for these tasted awesome, I can’t wait to try them.
We realized when we were done that we had managed to make at least one meal with almost every common type of meat: turkey, pork (chops and sausage), chicken, beef and fish. We also made breakfast items, meats that can be paired with whatever veg and starch we have on hand that day, and several different kinds of pasta dishes which can stand well on their own.
My personal plan is not to use what’s in my freezer until around the time the baby is due. Adrianne will likely use hers before and plans to do another freezer cook day in late December or early January, which is the general schedule of freezer cooking one would have if they weren’t taking a birth into consideration. So because we aren’t using the food for which I already bought ingredients, the cost of this cook day will come out of our next food budget. It’s basically like I invested in food that we’ll cash in in the future. As for the budget cycle that, for us, starts in two days, I’ll shop and cook as usual as though we didn’t have a freezer full of food.
What are some things we learned from our cook day?
- If you aren’t sure what size containers you’ll need for freezing, go ahead and buy a few different foil ones. Like my lasagna pans, sometimes they don’t end up being what you want and you can always take them back or use them later.
- Consider cooking at the same person’s house more than once in a row. I found getting around the kitchen, locating ingredients and using prep surfaces efficiently to be easier since this was our second time doing cook day at Adrianne’s.
- If you need to cook ingredients that may be ruined if you can’t use them in the right timing, make sure you plan for that. With so much going on you sometimes have to stop and start recipes (for example, we both had to boils lots of noodles so we made sure we got them into cold water so they didn’t become a sticky mess while we were waiting to use them). Try not to attempt recipes that are really sensitive to being put on hold or you’ll frustrate yourself and others. It’s maybe not the day for a soufflé or a reduction that requires constant stirring.
- Make sure the dishwasher is empty and the counters are totally clear. You will run out of space quickly and you’ll want to be able to load dirty dishes as you go to prevent pile up.
- Designate someone to do some clean up at you go, hand washing the items you need to reuse (which is most often pots, pans, measuring cups/spoons and mixing bowls). If you get to a point of not being able to move forward, take a timeout to wash dishes, clear surfaces and reset.
- Try to clean as you go but don’t freak out too much about floors, etc. Keep in mind you’re doing this all at once so that you only have to clean up once. You kitchen will thank you on all the days when you don’t have to prep these meals.
- If you are coming to cook at someone else’s home, bring utensils/mixing bowls/measuring cups for the recipes you are making but make sure you know what’s yours or label them. It was nice to have enough for us both to be prepping but I definitely left many things behind in the chaos. Good thing I know where she lives.
- If there are ingredients left over that you are splitting the cost on, it’s best to also half what remains of it. It’s not fair for someone to end up with a stocked freezer and a fridge full of ingredients unless they purchased them. Adrianne and I always split any remaining meat, eggs, milk and agree if one is going to keep something smaller like a stick of butter or chocolate chips. On the flip side, if you asked for an ingredient just for your recipe (or, in our case, I use wheat flour but Adrianne doesn’t) plan to take the rest and cover the cost.
I don’t have a final cost for our cook day as we are still breaking down receipts and splitting up remaining ingredients but by the tip I post pictures I’ll be able to include how much it cost per meal to cook what we cooked.
The bottom line result for just our family: 15 dinner meals, 2 quiche, 12 muffins, 18 pancakes and a bazillion breakfast cookies – plus eggs, meat, milk, cream, etc. I could easily feed our family for over two weeks after the baby is born without cooking a thing, but I’m sure it will last even longer since people love to bring food in exchange for the chance to smell a newborn.
Stocking up: Our second freezer cooking day
As I mentioned before, my sister-in-law Adrianne and I decided about a month ago that we wanted to try out the concept of big batch cooking/freezer cooking. The project seemed a bit daunting but also kind of thrilling to envision a freezer full of ready meals to be grabbed and enjoyed even on the busiest day. For many years I didn’t really have this outlook on cooking. I kind of viewed freezing meals as “less foodie” … or something… and stock piling ingredients as something people with big homes and pantries do, not those of us in tiny apartments who are better off shopping frequently.
But since having kids my time has become stretched thinner and I have begun to look for ways to do more in less time so I can HAVE more time for J and the kiddos. It just became more and more obvious that shopping less often, with a meal plan, and cooking more than one meal if I’m already in the kitchen and making a big stack of dirty dishes is a better use of my time. Add to that the benefit to the food budget of buying in bulk (which can be a waste if you can’t use it all at once which is where big batch cooking and freezing comes into play) and having meals ready so we don’t find ourselves grabbing takeout or picking up an item or two that will cost more because we didn’t price check or bought it at our local store which is pricier and it was definitely worth a try.
And as a side note: Having part or most of your meal in the freezer doesn’t mean you can’t buy fresh and yummy veggies from a farmers market and add a salad, or do a side from a vegetable that’s in season at the time you decide to use a freezer meal. Don’t think of this as tv dinner eating.
So that’s the background, fast forward to now and we have one freezer cooking day under our belts. It did make a huge mess in my sister-in-law’s kitchen (though she felt I may have still gotten the short end of the deal when we went downstairs and saw what several hours of four toddlers and two dads created in our place) and we had to juggle many recipes at once which sometimes meant a backup for the stove or running out of mixing bowls, but in the end our freezers were full and we felt a huge sense of accomplishment.
What did we make the first time?
- Mini meatloaves
- Pasta sauce
- Teriyaki pork
- Banana muffins
- Potato soup
- Peanut chicken
- Chicken, quinoa and sweet potato stew
- Quiche loraine
We made enough of each recipe for each family to have at least one batch, but two of most of them. As you can imagine, just my half of the ingredient contribution was comically huge as I wheeled it into the elevator and prayed the cart could take the weight.
We learned a lot about freezing techniques (the sauce on the top of the meatloaves sticks to the plastic, potato soup doesn’t freeze well and needs some love to mix well again when reheated, quiche filling can be frozen in a ziplock and poured into a shell later which is easier to store in the freezer) and became believers in the technique of freezing things flat in large freezer bags so they can then be stacked upright or like this (no, this isn’t my freezer, I wish):
Source: browneyedbaker.com via Sarah on Pinterest
So here we are, somewhere around a month to six weeks before our baby arrives and it is definitely time to fill up our freezer in preparation. So we have refined our techniques, made a new list of recipes, shopped and we’re ready to take it to the next level tomorrow. Thanks of course to our husbands who are going to spend quality time with our kids from post-afternoon-nap time until we’re done (likely after the kids are in bed).
Want to know what we are bravely, and excitedly, tackling tomorrow??
- Asian salmon
- Baked penne with sausage and ricotta
- Turkey, sweet potato and goat cheese cannelloni (from Clean Eating Magazine)
- Mini meatloaves
- Pumpkin chocolate chip muffins
- Breakfast cookies
- Homemade healthy tortillas
- Buttermilk pancakes
- Basic meat lasagna
- Chicken alfredo rollups
- Peanut chicken
- Quiche filling
- Pick recipes that you know will freeze well or are designed to be frozen and have freezer instructions. This eliminates freezer fails or spending time guessing if you should cook and then freeze, freeze uncooked, how to freeze it, etc.
- Start with just a few recipes and plan to make at least a double batch of each (more if you can manage it with your pot/pan sizes) as this is what really increases the benefit of bulk buying and getting more meals for your work.
- Split the recipes in half, each of you taking some and doing the planning for them (and the cooking on cook day). This makes ingredient purchasing easier, less likely you’ll forget items and more focus on cook day. And this is the other benefit of cooking big batches together: you work on four recipes and go home with eight. WIN.
- Keep receipts and a running list of what you’ve bought and what you used from your own kitchen so you can even out the cost as needed in the end. This will only benefit your budget if you’re honest about how much it cost each of you.
- Try to cancel out items you used from your own pantries so you don’t have to price them out. For example, if you already had molasses and used 4 cups, and your friend contributed 4 eggs from her fridge, cross those off your list. It makes the math easier when you get it down to a small list.
- When buying ingredients for cook day, pay for them separately from your other grocery store purchases you are making for your own family. This just makes splitting the receipt straightforward.
- Plan an order of cooking to avoid bottlenecks at the stove or for the oven. We are still working on this, but this time we’ve made an order of cooking based on who needs the oven and what can be done away from the stove. This also helps prevent a situation where you have nothing to do because everything is cooking or cooling (I have some recipes that don’t need to be cooked so I’ll do the chopping, bagging and labelling of these in between other recipes because they can be stopped and started flexibly)
- Plan your freezing containers. Do you need foil lasagna pans? Large freezer bags? Are you freezing something you’ve never frozen before and need to research it? Don’t do all this work only to see freezer burn on your beautiful meals. Part of why I didn’t buy into freezing meals before is because I didn’t think it really worked. Learning how to bag stuff well, freeze in the right portion sizes and label clearly has changed my mind when I see the food is still yummy when it comes out.
Challenge: Christmas shopping with a purpose
Here is your challenge, should you choose to accept it: Join me in trying to make every. single. gift purchase I make this Christmas do double duty. A tall order no doubt, but hear my out (plus I rhymed so…)
As in, it blesses the receiver and it blesses someone else at the same time. For me, this has meant seeking out shops that donate at least a percentage of their proceeds to adopting families to help offset the incredible cost of that process. This hasn’t been easy as we have a very low budget per person this year and, to be brutally honest, quite a bit of what is out there is sweetly handmade but not high quality. I’m not an advocate of buying something someone will think is useless, I’d rather just donate the whole amount then and I don’t believe in doing that unless the person in whose name I am donating would truly be blessed by that.
This is a bit of a tangent of personal conviction but I believe donating the money I was going to spend on someone is not necessarily a sacrificial gift at all – in fact I forced them to sacrifice their gift and maybe only I feel good about that (unless I know it’s a cause close to their heart or they’ve directly asked people to donate). The real challenge in donating would be to ask people to donate the gift they were going to by ME in my name or to donate money I receive for Christmas and still give gifts to others. It should be me that feels the sacrifice and everyone else involved who should feel blessed. Maybe you want to push back on me on that but please think twice before you make someone else go gift-less while you happily open what they gave you. It’s not easy, especially when you’re like me and you often feel like what you have to spend on yourself during the year isn’t much (newsflash to me: I am wealthy compared to most of the world) and it’s hard to give up gifts at Christmas. And I’d say if it feels hard to imagine getting no gifts, that’s further proof I shouldn’t be making that choice for someone else.
So back to the point, if you are like me and you really want to show some love in the form of gift-giving but want to see the proceeds helping those in need and not lining the pockets of Nike, I’ve got some ideas. Maybe you’ll have a hard time finding something for everyone on your list (like I said, some of the selection is well-meaning but not great) but maybe you could shoot for 75%? Or even 50%?
For me it can be hard to stay out of the stores at Christmas time and resist the need to buy and buy (have you BEEN into Chapters lately?! Just kill me now I. must. have. everything.
Deep breath. On a personal level this is an important thing for me to do as well because I want to reign in that part of me that is sure I am missing out on something if I don’t buy the seasonal trend decorations that will end up in a landfill or search and search and search and search until I find the perfect gift for someone which doesn’t actually exist and will never be in my price range. Putting my money where my mouth is and saying tangibly that the spirit of my Christmas is to celebrate in the manor of the one who I am celebrating means not showering those who have with more but rather being concerned about those who are struggling. If I am honest with myself I know that Jesus would have spent Christmas quite differently than I do. If it is to you, as I want it to be for me, a day to celebrate and honour him we must – we must – ask ourselves what he was about.
So will you think about taking a leap and widening the circle of who you consider “loved ones” this Christmas? While you’re loving your family with material gifts (and this isn’t fundamentally wrong) look for real ways to love those who would have gotten priority invitations to Jesus’ Christmas dinner.
As I said, I’m trying to buy gifts that benefit adoptions, but if I am unable to find something within my budget for everyone on my list then I’ll look next to gifts that benefit those in need in our neighbourhood through groups like Union Gospel Mission. Beyond that I’ll purchase the rest from local artisans to encourage community development or make gifts myself and donate the saved money.
So what have I found so far? There are some pretty cool shops that raise funds for adoption (some for a general fund, most for a specific family) I’d encourage you to check out.
- Jewelry and t-shirts from once was lost (write in Varun and Amelia if you’d like 50% of the proceeds to go towards my friends’ India adoption)
- These super cool floor poufs from Sewing for Adoptions (I want one of these in that killer grey and orange ikat fabric)
- Pillow cases in a wide variety of beautiful fabrics from The Adoption Nations shop
- Screen printed shirts and onesies from dandelion dream (the VW van is very cool)
- Earrings, hairpins, etc. from Made by Jewls (there are too many fabric earring patterns that rock here for me to choose a favourite)
- This shop is not my style personally but she sells a homemade natural laundry detergent and they’re fundraising to adopt a special needs child into their family
- And for my Texas friends with loyal ties to your university, you can buy burp clothes, towels and potholders at AwaitingEthiopia that show your Aggie or UT pride AND support an adoption from Ethiopia. Not seeing the downside here…
Those are some of the options I’ve found in my searching so far. I’ll definitely be sharing other ideas for quality gifts that give twice as I find them. If you want to listen to some talks that has influenced my views on this you can check Greg Boyd’s talk on Celebrating A Subversive King or Christmas Beyond the Pattern.
A chocolate addict talks child labour
It’s funny to see the twins pretend to work around the house. They love to be given wipes or a duster and told they are “helping” mommy. If they get their hands on the broom or the Swiffer it could entertain them for an hour. Not that they get any actual work done (I’m lucky if they don’t create more).
But what wouldn’t be funny is if my littles got up every morning and went to a real manual labour job, maybe without breakfast in their tummies or a lunch in tow.
This post is coming down to the wire but before Halloween is actually here tomorrow (and let’s be honest adults have been dressing up and acting a fool for over a week now anyways) but I quickly wanted to be part of spreading the word about the serious downside of the fun sized candy you are likely planning on picking up at Target on the way home.
Please, before you do, read this post on a blog I respect and frequent about the use of forced child labour in the chocolate market.
the inconvenient truth about your halloween chocolate and forced child labor
We rationalize that we can’t afford fair-trade. We joke about how addicted we are. We justify that we can’t change everything. And I think secretly, we don’t relate because these are kids in a far-off country, and not our own. It’s okay as long as we don’t have to see it happening right in front of us. Well, I’m here to ruin it for you. Now you know. We can’t keep looking away. If we choose willful ignorance on this one, then we are no better than the people who are directly forcing children to work.
It’s heartbreaking, especially if you look at the pictures of the kids being bused to the farms and then think of your own babies/grandkids/nieces/nephews and how their days are not filled with sweat and work and heat and empty bellies but with their mommies and daddies and in school and reading books and filling their minds with new words and ideas and smells and tastes.
I share this particular issue because I am speaking as much to myself as to anyone else: I have an addiction to cheap chocolate. Cheap, sugar-filled chocolate that I now know is provided to me by other momma’s babies. And knowing that should change what I do. Having a craving, getting more for my budget, being too lazy to look for a better option, these excuses cannot suffice. So if you like me feel that I need to act on what I know…
- read the article
- watch the video in it
- research responsible and sustainable chocolate options
- pass on buying from the cheap big-name guys
- and consider being a part of the solution of childhood weight issues here at home too and offer a healthier treat at your door this Halloween.
Some options you could consider:
- Fair trade chocolate
- Boxes of raisins or other dried fruits (“natures candy!” for all you Parks & Rec fans)
- Bags of apple chips or root veggie chips (sounds crazy but the kids love them and they’d be a nice break from all the sweet flavours)
- Popcorn
- Baked cheese puffs like Barbara’s (a great company)
Snack-sized bags of Annie’s Bunnies (this is what I picked, they sell them at Costco)
Source: annies.alice.com via Sarah on Pinterest
Starting this Halloween, join me in making changes to the way we buy and consume chocolate. And kill two birds with one stone by introducing your neighbour kids to snacks that aren’t bad for them and they just might enjoy.
Before they grow up to be an adult like me who has to break her addiction to crappy chocolate at 30 years old.
Another resource on the ins and outs of fair trade chocolate and why it’s a good idea.
A comprehensive guide to buying ethical halloween treats














































